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i love how there is no comments on this everyone just gets the reference
No. No, I don’t get the reference. 300 thousand people have reblogged this without a word, without so much as a tag, because apparently we all get the reference. I fucking don’t. This has passed by my dashboard hundreds of fucking times and nobody ever asks what the fuck it is.
I’m officially terming this post a conspiracy. 300000 people could not just know what this is. You’re all reblogging this to fit in, or because you know it messes with people, or because you’re the fucking Matrix. You’re the Matrix, aren’t you? You’re all a bunch of Mr Smiths living in a world of green code. Well fuck you all and fuck your stupid post. I’m off to save fucking Zion.
Each house has its own noble history and each has produced outstanding witches and wizards.
I just had a straight guy tell me “Gah I love lesbians” and before I could even say anything, he added, “because, ya know, they like the same thing I do and sometimes it’s nice to get advice from a girl instead of guys who think making love is just repeatedly putting your dick in something, ya know?” And I have never been more proud of the human race.
i was very mad and then i wasn’t
and if that’s what makes heroes, what’s stopping you?
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
- Stay with us and keep calm.
The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.
- Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.
- Move us to a quiet place.
We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.
- Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.
- Speak to us in short, simple sentences.
- Be predictable. Avoid surprises.
- Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
As odd as it sounds, it works.WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:
1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.
Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.
Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”
2. Say, “Calm down.”
This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.”
Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.
Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.
3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.
Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.
4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.
The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.
Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.
1. the meaning behind my url
2. a picture of me
3. tattoos i have
4. last time i cried and why
5. piercings i have
6. favorite band
7. biggest turn off(s)
8. top 5 (insert subject)
9. tattoos i want
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12. ideas of a perfect date
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THE ULTIMATE FUCKING POST
You know it’s good when you bother to scroll all the way back up just to reblog it.
…Wait scroll up HOW OLD IS THIS THING
Reblog if you do too. Just to prove that it is more normal than what people actually think.
emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.
this is important because so many people don’t know this
tell me boy meets world wasn’t brilliant
• Grades are more important than your morals,emotional & physical health
• How to hate people in general
• To want to quit life weekly
• How to text/eat in class without getting caught
• Why I will never amount to anything
mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell
the magna carta was signed in 1215
NEVER reveal you have gum
how to sleep without people noticing
how to hide headphones with your hair/hand
im so worried about tall boys….be safe…be careful up there… maybe u should come down here and kiss me
Not a quick question at all, but I’ll see what I can do here:
First off, let me put this rumor to bed: The character of Dorcas Meadowes does not feature in The Gathering Storm.
It’s important to remember that for the most part, everything you guys believe you know about the story is speculative. We have shown pictures of Evan (Sirius) and Caroline (Marlene) together, and of course the whole story is building up to James and Lily inevitably getting together, but that is the entirety of what we’ve given you so far. I will confirm that James, Lily, Sirius, and Severus are all written and explicitly portrayed as heterosexual. As for why we chose not to include “Wolfstar” in the story (it was something the writing team spent a good amount of time talking about), it was because in the end, all three of the writers saw Sirius as straight.
There are several other characters who, while the story doesn’t get a chance to delve much into it (keep in mind that we had to keep the story quite focused to keep it within the timeframe), who were designed as queer. There’s also a number of characters whose sexualities the film doesn’t get to explore, and are left up you guys to extrapolate upon.
As for the race question, there were a lot of components in our casting decision. Yes, part of it was an attempt to stay visually cohesive to the general fandom’s mental images of the characters, as well as (at least vaguely) with the WB films. Tumblr user godsavethemarauders recently did a beautiful job of explaining this. Doing so was vital, as the cast was really all we had going into the Kickstarter, if we wanted the public to look at these six actors and accept them as the Marauders if we wanted any chance of pulling off our crowdfunding campaign. I’d also be lying if I said I didn’t have viria's versions of the characters in my head when I went into casting.
But the other side of it, and this is something that many people seem to forget is that we are an unpaid production, and chose among the actors that submitted for auditions. When we went into casting the side characters, almost all of them (with the exception of Regulus and Alice) were “colorblind” auditions. I’ll be honest, when we were crafting the story, I saw Marlene as black. I don’t think we received a single non-white audition for the character, but Caroline walked into the audition and was a perfect fit for the role. I don’t think we received a single PoC audition for any of the Slytherins. And as for the one specifically PoC role, DADA Prof. Zahra Bastet, we had a total of two auditions. Luckily, Danielle walked in and blew us all away. While I’m incredibly proud of my cast, and wouldn’t change a single member of it, it is important to remember that we were limited to the people that came into auditions.
We know there’s no way to please everybody, but we’ve worked hard to create something that the fandom will enjoy, and we can’t wait to share it with you.